Your Good Intentions Are (Mostly) Irrelevant When Your Partner Is Hurting
I never understood why the women I loved were so often angry at me. Until one day, in the painful midst of another lover-spat going nowhere, I finally got it …
The Single Most Destructive Cause of Relationship Stress: Resisting Feelings
For years I couldn’t feel my feelings, and my intimate relationships suffered awfully as a result.
Intimate Relationship Changes You (Ignore All Advice Saying Otherwise)
“Find someone who loves you as you are” is a wise ideal to lean towards, but make no mistake: You don’t get to stay the same person when you decide to build a life with another human being.
Without A Shared Purpose (Your Relationship Will Fail)
For nearly 3 decades, choosing me as your boyfriend was like strapping yourself into a faulty emotional roller coaster whose wheels would scream and spark before jumping the tracks, offing us both towards an awful demise.
"I Don’t Want Drama" (Beware Of The Man Who Says This)
When a man (or woman) says “I don’t want drama,” he is essentially saying, “I am terrified of feeling out of control, and I cannot be with anyone who feels feelings or acts in ways that are beyond my current capacity to feel or simply outside my tiny stress-free comfort zone.”
You Can’t Be KING … Until You Embrace Feminine Energy
No man can truly be King until he is willing to take responsibility not just for himself, but for the entire world around him. Until then, he might get rich, but all he’ll have is money.
Is Your Relationship Experiencing a ‘Crisis of Connection’?
I recently led a 2-day private coaching intensive for a well-intentioned couple who had ignorantly, innocently, conspired together for years to create a tragic mess of love.
The 1 Misunderstanding That Routinely Kills Relationships
There’s a terrible phenomenon that destroys otherwise good relationships. I call it the “Relationship Death Gap.”
How to Get a Man Into His Heart
No one ever taught me how to “be in my heart” (or what that even means). My relationships have often suffered horribly as a result. Like most men (many women, too) I’ve been conditioned to live in my head, to use my brain to solve any problem that presents itself.
You Do Not Serve Anyone By Shrinking Yourself For Love
Woman, I know you have been hearing for a lifetime that you’re too much, too needy, too loud, too opinionated, too demanding, too happy, too sad, too large, too emotional, too expressive, too whatever. So you learned to shrink yourself in countless ways.