Setting Boundaries - Bryan Reeves

The One Shift in Communication (That Saves Relationships)

January 19, 2026February 15, 2020

“When someone comes to you with their pain, they’re not asking you to decide if their experience is valid.” ~ Silvy Khoucasian ♦◊♦ Through all my adventures in intimacy, I spent way too much time evaluating the validity of my partners’ upsets and frustrations – often deciding they are NOT valid, especially when directed at … Read more

You Do Not Serve Anyone By Shrinking Yourself For Love

January 14, 2026April 3, 2017

Woman, I know you have been hearing for a lifetime that you’re too much, too needy, too loud, too opinionated, too demanding, too happy, too sad, too large, too emotional, too expressive, too whatever. So you learned to shrink yourself in countless ways.

Sometimes The Best Gift Is Leaving Your Partner

January 19, 2026June 2, 2016

♦◊♦ Throughout my adult life, no woman ever broke up with me that I didn’t want or even subtly encourage to leave. Nope. I was the one who ended intimate relationships. I see now I was also the one who never fully showed up for those relationships. But I only finally realized this after a woman

Does Your Partner Feel Safe With You?

January 19, 2026November 5, 2015

Your partner is always telling you either …

“I feel safe with you” … or

“I do not feel safe with you.“

Learning to hear what they’re really saying can change everything for both of you!

Women Feel Unsafe And It Is Our Fault

January 18, 2026September 10, 2014

“We have to take responsibility for what we are not responsible for.” ~ Robert Moore ~ ♦◊♦ In 2013, I attended a large workshop with 2000-ish people, about half men and women. One day, the facilitator asked this question of the men: “Men, raise your hand if you have felt unsafe at any point during the last week.”

Why Men Can’t Be Friends With Women They’re Attracted To (And Some Can)

January 18, 2026April 23, 2014

♦◊♦ Can a man be friends with a woman he’s attracted to? I’m a Man. I have lived this question thoroughly. The short answer is simply, Yes. Yes, Mature Men can be legitimate, authentic friends with the women they’re sexually attracted to. We can work respectfully alongside them, hang out with them, have lunch with