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Stop This Tragic Cycle In Your Relationship

January 18, 2026April 19, 2016

♦◊♦ (note: this happens in all relationships, straight or otherwise. It’s actually a masculine-feminine dynamic, not a man-woman dynamic.) I’ve discovered a tragic cycle in intimacy: WOMAN routinely lets man know he’s “not enough” (doesn’t feel enough; not emotional enough; not expressive enough; often combined with he can’t get it/do it right). Having no idea how to please her,

What is an Awakening Man?

January 19, 2026November 17, 2015

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haaVcrvqL-w&feature=youtu.be ♦◊♦ Reflections on an Awakening Man An “Awakening Man” wants a woman who will speak her truth to him, a woman who knows men aren’t equipped to read minds or even not-so-subtle clues. He also wants her to hold him accountable to his highest potential, which she instinctively sees in him (don’t you, ladies?!)

Does Your Partner Feel Safe With You?

January 19, 2026November 5, 2015

Your partner is always telling you either …

“I feel safe with you” … or

“I do not feel safe with you.“

Learning to hear what they’re really saying can change everything for both of you!

You’re Ready For All of Her, You’re a Goddamn Warrior

January 14, 2026October 28, 2015

♦◊♦ My dear proud brother, I know why you’ve always struggled to truly, fully love every woman you’ve ever wanted to truly, fully love. I know why every romance you ever indulged in for more than a sweet, fleeting moment soon threatened to overwhelm you. I know why you still sometimes feel the urge to

Learn to Feel Your Woman (Or Lose Her)

January 14, 2026May 29, 2015

♦◊♦ A man recently told me that his wife said she doesn’t feel connected to him. When she said it, he looked around, quickly noticed they were both physically in the same room talking to each other, and exclaimed with frustration drenching his words, “What the f**k are you talking about? I’m right here!” She didn’t feel connected to

Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)

January 14, 2026May 2, 2015

I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her. I wanted to choose her. But I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me.

3 Steps to a Life-Changing Apology

January 18, 2026March 28, 2015

Apologies are easy. It’s swallowing that jagged little pill of pride that’s hard. A genuine apology (with no sneaky agenda) can transform the dynamic in any relationship from a charged adversarial stand-off into the elegant dance of partnership. A wonderful karma-fixer, an apology can avert years of upset and disconnection. Too often, though, excuses deny

The 3 Stages of Love (Where Are You?)

January 18, 2026March 1, 2015

♦◊♦ I’m a huge fan of disillusionment. Having an illusion ripped away from us can be profoundly liberating. Dorothy had to discover the Wizard of Oz was just a conman before she could discover she already had the power to get herself home. When it comes to love, disillusionment is essential, if also profoundly painful.

5 Signs a Man is Connected to His Heart

January 18, 2026February 12, 2015

Many men think our strongest power is in our brains or our balls. They’re wrong.

Beating Jealousy: Two Simple Truths

January 18, 2026December 17, 2014

♦◊♦ Jealousy. That scourge of intimacy that, at its worst, can rob even the most sane person of his or her mental stability as it drags them disoriented and damned into a fiery living nightmare where they’re likely to be tortured by their own fantastical fictions. When jealousy settles into a relationship the consequences can